The insight.
Wednesday, 24 November 2021 | 02:02 | 0 comments
Hello there :)
November 24th 2021, 12:46AM
Bismillah, assalamualaikum.
Hey how is everyone going? Good? Great to hear that :)
If you have been following me since.. the beginning, yes indeed this a very great platform of knowing me more in the inside xD (because those who have access to this blog are.. people that may have known me long enough to actually wanted to know how am i be doing currently)
(Betul sebab this blog is actually about, things that i dont speak out to people)
Hence, the tajuk kita harini! INSIGHT *drumroll*
Okay, apa yang i wanted to talk about ni kan? (macam2 je la xD)
Harini nak cakap sikit regarding my insight about interpersonal relationship. What kind of relationship..? Im focusing more to a relationship that is towards.. marriage.
Woah thats a big topic isnt it? Nak kahwin dah ke sis tetiba cakap pasal marriage ni?
Hahaha, okay i realized that i never actually jotted down of my insight towards marriage-type relationship.
1. If a person decide to settle down with us, what does that mean?
Well basically that means that the person wanted to go to the next step of a relationship with us towards... marriage.
And when a person decided to go for marriage, what comes into my mind is:
- The person decided to be our other half. A soulmate. A life long partner that i will include in my every plan until my very last breath (cewah haha). Travel plan, family plan and etc of plans
Marriage is a very serious decision yang kita kena selaluu buat istikharah. InsyaAllah semoga kita sentiasa dikurniakan rezeki untuk istiqamah. Ye, setiap keputusan kita mesti minta petunjuk daripada yang Maha Mengetahui. Lagi2, keputusan yang involve dengan hidup kita :O
2. Insight of Interpersonal Relationship between partner?
- And when a person decide to settle down dengan kita, what i expect is that our undivided loyalness of us to be given for our partner. Kalau tak boleh nak stay loyal... berhenti lah fikir pasal marriage.
- Growth together. Emotional growth, financial growth sama2. The ups and lows kita akan support daripada belakang :)
- We build our trust to them. The hardest part to build yet the easiest to be broken down. Sebab in relationship.. kita akan let our guards down eventually to them. Terer kan our partner, how did they do it. Maksud trust is... "we know that our partner will never do anything that will jeopardize us emotionally and physically." Okay yang ni baca from Quora, and i reaally berkenan dengan jawapan ni! xD
Know that when kita ada partner, everything that we do, will no doubt affect their feelings. Susah jugak kan but i think.. for me that statement is kinda true. Kita kena sangat2 jaga hati partner kita. Sebab dia kan our other half :)
- Communicate kalau ada problems. I know this can be a hard part jugak cause i think so too. But its important to let our significant person to understand what we feel. So that they can react/ respond appropriately. Nak leave us alone for a while, nak ada dengan kita. Bagi chance untuk dorang faham kita, untuk dorang lakukan yang terbaik untuk kita. Okay? (Cakap dekat diri sendiri haha)
Other part of communicating is meant by updating to each other: where we are, what we are doing, whom we are with and etc.
- Patience. Patience is applied to both, at ourself and our partner. Kita kena sabar nak fahami our partner. And kita kena banyak bersabar dengan diri sendiri jugak especially.
Sebelum ni in our psychiatry class, we have one session dengan a psychological counsellor. She taught us regarding Freud's Theory of Mind. If you guys are interested please read it! Serious seronok, dia macam belajar tentang diri kita sendiri :)
This theory ni ceritakan that in every people behavior is mostly due to our mind. And mind kita ni dominance dia is childish (atau in the theory we called as "Id" mind). "Id" remains relatively unchange throughout our life. And another part of our mind is "Superego", which can be develop through time and they control the dominance of "Id". And end up, a healthy adult mind is balance between both of them.
- Belajar love language our partner. Apa yang dia suka, tak suka, what type of apology-person they are, makanan, minuman kegemaran. When they are okay, tak okay, cara nak pujuk. Penting lah for me xD Kita kan nak bina hidup bersama, in order to attain a harmony relationship :)
Okay this took me about an hour + to think about the points above and i know many more to adds. Nanti kalau ada kerajinan i will add more. So yeap, i hope this can be clear for my future-partner for life hehe.
Well this is all for now. :)
Akhir kata, assalamualaikum.
